We Can Sit At The Adult Table Now

You know that odd age when you are to old for the kids table but not old enough to sit with the adults. That feeling is relived when you get engaged. That small place between your single friends and the married couples in your life can be a quiet place. Once you get married you are opened up to a whole new level of conversation.

 

The first few months you sit at the married table and just observe. Everyone shakes your hand and tells you welcome to the club.  You and your love smile at each other and laugh at the fact that you feel very grown up all of a sudden. It seems that every human interaction you've had in the last month has been reduced to simple congratulations on making the jump.

 

Carlos and I have been married five months today and I still find it amusing to see how free other couples feel about talking about their relationships. I've told Carlos that I'm still not comfortable with calling him sexy on facebook.  I'm sure I'll get over that at some point but each day I find we have a little more to contribute to the conversation at the married table. In the long run I can see this taking a drastic turn because my Love and I are not wired to stick with small talk. Our nature is to ask the heavy questions and expect answers.

For now we are enjoying laughing and joking with the couples in our lives but soon we will have to ask a few things. Why? Because so much of the wisdom here should be shared with the singles and engaged couples before they make the transition. We want to see healthy couples come to the table because so many young marriages spend their first years in the ER and Intensive care. So many decide to pull the plug on such a wonderful gift. Why not drop life giving food, vitamins, and first aid kits to them before they walk the isle? Let them grow healthy as individuals and as a couple and try to help them heal all the hurts they can before they say

I Do